Devine Marriage, adoring each other…

It kinda has to start and end with adoring the other person in your relationship. If not, then it becomes a one sided or a one way relationship. Each person although unique has to venerate the other. Not an easy task thought thick and thin.

It doesn’t matter if it is a hetrosexal or same sex relationship without that mutual attraction and adoration the relationship will not last.

Life is a struggle and struggle or hard times are sure to come. However; you don’t have that feeling or let go of the feeling that you once had your love with not last…

BobbyD and I have flat tires, bills to pay, we get lost driving places just like everybody else. However; for us it isn’t the end of the world. We hold onto each other. We support each other thought the hard times, and through the good times. Why? Simply because we ‘adore’ each other.

I’m BobbyD’s best friend. BobbyD is my best friend. Best friends!

Devine Marriage: belonging?

Both BobbyD & I remember the night we met. That was 39 years ago. Through thick and thin we have that special moment where two hearts beat as one. We became a unit when we married. I consider him in all the decisions I make and conversely BobbyD does the same for me.

Mother Therese said “a life worth living is worth living for others.” And so it is in our marriage. It is me first it is still we first. Dinner’s are what we like not what I like take it or leave it. Vacation’s are what we like not what I like take it or leave it. It is today, tomorrow, yesterday, and forever love!

There is no time limit and belonging as the day we wed is kinda for us ~ forever…:

This wonderful thing we call love has sustained us through many storms. The travails of life come. The bloom of youth goes. We get older. If you don’t have that feeling of belonging it is easy to give up. I’m not judging those that haven’t been able to make it work. Just kinda saying ~ what’s work for us…:

Love is love…

If love is all I need, then why BobbyD. And on BobbyD’s side, why me? I think it comes down to that special feeling. A knowing that person is the one. Like looking at a litter of kittens or puppies. How do you know which one? It is an feeling you get… I can’t see the wind but I know the wind when I feel it. I can’t see the heat or the cold but I know the heat of summer. The cold of winter when I feel it.

I believe in love. It is stronger than hate. It is kinda God on earth when we love another. Or, at least for me…

For the past 2 ¬†years BobbyD has driven me crazy with, “I want you to be happy.” I’ve been retired for a number of years. My days kept full with gardening.

So when the opportunity presented itself to me to become ordained and serve the LGBT community with marriage officiating. I considered it for a while before speaking to BobbyD about it. A happy time, filled with love, hopes, and dreams. I am now “ordained”. The pieces falling into place as I await my first clients.

Staying in love…

Staying in love requires; hard work to make it the long haul. It has to be more than a feeling. Although it starts with that first attraction. Then slowly builds from that foundation.


You have to want it to work. Your joy needs to be, making that other person happy. Wanting that other person we are with to smile and enjoy life.

Holding the others happiness close to your heart. Once, we forget this then it isn’t love. It is a relationship.

It is hard work making a marriage work. It is hard work making a relationship work. It is kinda capturing that feeling that you had in the beginning and never wanting it to end…






Devine Marriage, making dreams…!

Thirty five, plus years in the making… Dreams come, and dreams go during that time.

Work, more and even more work. However; a constant vision based on respect, love, and the mutual dream of home and family kept the dream going. Hard times, along with smooth sailing the dream evolved.

Growing older. Becoming stronger, and bolder in that hand up. Not all smooth sailing. Rough seas and prayers. With a steady hand to guide the other one through the storms. We make it through the night.

Kinda corny? However, it is what works for BobbyD and me………


Devine Marriage, keeping it fresh!

It is has been a long, windy, and wonderful journey… Sometimes it does feel like the John Prine tune i.e.: In Spite of Ourselves!

However, we work hard at keeping our marriage “fresh”…

We make a point of not doing the saturday nite “Archie Bunker” staying home watching the television. Building a rainbow with music. Not huge venues or big acts. Rather, small venues that feature local talent. Watching T.V. tends to make a couple static.

Kinda like water you want to keep it moving to keep it fresh. Versus, a static pond. A static pond quickly becomes rancid. A static marriage likewise becomes rancid. Same old, same old…

I try to have 3 new venues a year.

Joining many years ago the Philadelphia FolkSong Society.

Part of this membership gives us 8 to 10 free concerts a year. Our $80.00 couple membership equals out to about $4.00 a concerts. Wowie! It keeps the marriage fresh.

Steel City, Godfrey Daniels, Landhaven, and other venues offer tickets from: $15.00 to $45.00 nothing that breaks the bank.

The surrounding towns offer summer concert series that are free of charge. We make it a picnic. A blanket, a cooler of ice tea, along with sandwiches, or a cheese and cracker spread. Again, not breaking the bank. So, we can do it frequently.


Not only do we have the benefit of live arts keeping out minds fresh. We get to enjoy in a sober, environment live music in an the idyllic setting. Nature, and music life just doesn’t get much better.

Stay tuned for; more on keeping it fresh…!