Harmony, put simply is the blending of 2 things to make
something more pleasing. BobbyD & I each one exists apart from the other but ask people and they think of us as a couple. Together we attempt to live in harmony. Each one making the other better.
It isn’t in either one of our venacular’s to exclude the other. Bob believed in me. It was his support that aided me in attending college. We are the other’s wings support and encouraging each other dreams.
It isn’t what I want, nor what BobbyD wants it is what works. We are a team and have been a team from the beginning. BobbtyD makes me a better person. In kind, I make BobbyD a better person.
To give you an example of how we support each other. We are part of each other coming together to make a “Devine Marriage”.
Music has always been a vital part of our relationship. Bob was a drummer playing in a local band. He was new in the game of preforming and lacked confidence. Neither one of us had any money so one of our first dates was band practice.
The Band practiced in down town Schwenksville, Pa. in kitchen that housed 6 children, and a husband and wife. They practiced in the kitchen the biggest room. They were getting ready for their first gig. They were all nervous, “their first live performance”.
BobbyD took a kitchen stoll ~ placing it in front to his drum kit in the center of the room. The stoll was backless I shall never forget that…! It was kinda brutal and I had a lot of time to think sitting there while the band practice. It occurred that my purpose there on that stoll was to give Bob confidence because he would look up now and then at me.
When the band took a break the oldest daughter asked me if I rather watch TV with them I declined. Because, I realised my purpose of being at band practice was to support BobbyD by “by being there where he could focus on something that supported him”.
35 years, later… Barto Jam, there I am sitting where BobbyD can see me. Him looking up now and then for the smile that encourages him.